Attachment styles
A plain-language look at attachment patterns in adulthood, anxious, avoidant, secure, and the mixed spaces in between.
Attachment style describes how you tend to respond when relationships feel close, uncertain, or strained, not who you are forever.
Anxious responses often include seeking reassurance and scanning for distance. Avoidant responses may emphasize independence and minimize needs. Many people move between both depending on context.
These habits usually made sense at some point. They are strategies for getting care, staying safe, or managing disappointment, not character flaws.
Attachment language can reduce shame and give you a clearer map for what you are trying to protect in relationships now.